~ Episode 01
INTRODUCTION TO RELATIONSHIPS
Many times we have been having these seminars in our churches or Conferences, but it seems like with the excitement that young people have over such subjects, still problems are not solved yet. Still we are having the same questions being asked over and over. Attending one Conference asking one question, still attending another seminar still you hear the same question being asked by the same people. And then you wonder what is happening?
Why is it that after all those seminars and Conferences, still we have the same people getting into problems again even after acquiring information about it?
Is it that we are not taught right? ( I wouldn’t say so🤔🤔) and I don’t want to say that we are taught wrong, the teachers are good and well. But there is a problem somewhere.
The problem is with the people attending the seminars, and the teachers also can’t allocate the three categories of these people, so that the information can be broken in a manner that satisfies all.
I believe am talking to ministers here
One day you are going to stand before people to teach them. So understanding your audience is very important, you need to find a way to engage with your audience in order to understand their categories.
What teachers do mostly is this
We believe that every youth is fit to be taught about relationships, so as long as we have seen youths attending the service, we conclude that we have the right audience for the session🤨
Most of the time we don’t ask even our audiences, to see if they are fit for what you are about to give them or not.
So if you are going to be a mentor somewhere later, listen to this “don’t just speak because you have a lot to speak, but speak because they have ears to hear”
Study your audience to see if he/she fits for the staff you are about to feed him/her
Study your audience
Very important concept for teachers especially in the kingdom of God
Search the understanding of your audience, check the past experience and then you will know what to give
And how you should give it.
Another mistake that we do as teachers is this “we rush into teaching about courtship and marriage ( tunakimbilia kufundisha uchumba na ndoa)” without knowing that relationship is more bigger than that, relationship is not just about having boyfriend and girlfriend and then get married it is far bigger than that. And I believe this is the reason some are fornicating in church yet they feel comfortable calling it courtship🤔
Courtship and marriage is just a small piece of RELATIONSHIPS before teaching people how to have Relationships with themselves first, we rush into “how to know the right person” easy please easy my fellow servants😂😂. Study study study first.
Most of people attend these because they want someone who will make them feel good during winter😂😂.
What are these three kinds of audiences?
- Those that attend to learn anything about relationships (this is not bad)
- Those that are coming to verify the ones they have ( hawa ni wale walio kwenye mahusiano, huko nje ila wanataka wasikie kitakachopitisha na kuendana na mahusiano yao, wengi wao huja na wenzao. Halafu kibaya ni kwa yule aliye na mtu asiyefaa wamedanganyana huko sasa kwa kuwa yeye ni binti kanisa na yule kijana hajaokoka, basi anamleta ili kufurahisha nia zao wapate fundisho linalowapaka mafuta ( mafuta unaweza kupaka juu ya uchafu, lakini kuoga huondoa uchafu wote)
👉🏻 hapa pia kuna yule mwenye mtu akilini tayari kashamuona mtu kwa mbali kaja kutafuta gia😂😂) - Those that are not in a relationship at all and they are not interested for the time being to be there.
As a teacher don’t just teach generally, identify the audience, it is better to stick to the message of salvation before getting to that area.
It is better you preach salvation first before getting to that area, preach Jesus Christ first. Lest you find yourself training sinners and giving them tickets to continue in their filth. Wakitoka utasikia “bebi ulisikia alichosema mtumishi, hiki kitu kumbe rhuksa kumbe Biblia haipingi mahusiano eeh….. nlikuambia usiogope chochote tupo vizuri wewe mwenyewe umesikia pale aliposema kwamba ni sawa tu ukiwa kwenye mahusiano na aliposema kwamba ni kitu cha msingi haswa kwa vijana😂😂”
Who lied to you?🤔🤔, Ni kweli biblia haipingi mahusiano ya uchumba na ndoa, but only if you are doing the GOD’S way
Now RELATIONSHIP, is not all about courtship and marriage as I said before.
Relationship is bigger than just you having someone to marry or to get married to
Now this is going to help you, here I’m not just teaching you about relationships but also teaching you marturity
Relationship is bigger than just you having a partner
The term “RELATIONSHIP” means the total way of behavior towards God, a person, environment, or yourself. They way you respond or behave towards something for a specific time
There are two types of relationships, that are
- Positive relationship (Good relationship)
👉🏻 This is a kind of a relationship where both parties work together for advantage that benefits all, it can be a certain goal in life that will favour all of you. - “Negative relationship (bad relationship)”
👉🏻 This is a kind of a relationship that ends ruining either one or both of you. In addition All parasitic relationships fall under this category ( when I say parasitic relationship I mean a kind of relationship where one side is benefiting and the other side is exploited🤣🤣🤣)
Whether good or bad, there are also various forms of relationships, that are
- The relationship between you and God (Theo-relationship/or faith type of relationship)
- Interpersonal relationship ( this is the relationship between one person and the other/ the way two people behave towards each other or the way two people are connected)
- Intrapersonal relationship ( this is a the way someone relates to himself/herself) – it is also called self-type of relationship.
- Enviro- relationship relationship between you and your environment.
Now interpersonal relationships is also divided into
- Friendly relationship
- Marital relationship
- Romantic relationship
- Parental relationship
- Child- parent relationship
- Political relationship
- Administartional relationship.
- Family relationship e.t.c So what we are going to do here is to pick some that are very important according to where we are going with this subject
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