IMPORTANCE OF SINGLENESS ~ Part 5 ( Self-awareness)

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Let us get our readings from the book of

Genesis 2:18
[18] And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be “alone”; I will make him an help meet for him.

BWANA Mungu akasema, Si vema huyo mtu awe “peke yake”, nitamfanyia msaidizi wa kufanana naye.

Tonight we are going to get deeper into this topic,

If you look at the scripture very well you are going to discover something. This scripture is mostly used in weddings and marriages in a sense that undermine singleness. But tonight let us look at it again through the light of the Holy Spirit

You are going to discover that “the issue of relationship was never a man’s idea, but God’s idea”

It is God who said that “it is not good that man should be alone”

Adam never fasted for a wife, as you are doing nowadays in churches😂

Adam never asked God for a wife,. And Adam was not lonely, but “he was alone”

There is a big difference between “being alone” and “loneliness”

“Loneliness” means something was there but it is no longer there, so there is a blank/ a gap that needs to be filled. “Loneliness is a disease”

But “being alone/ aloneness” is a healthy state meaning that you are well sustained from within. And “you have enough room to live with yourself”

Do you understand that, most people who say that they are singles, only few of them are truly single

True singleness is what qualifies you for a partner, being alone is what qualifies you for a partner, not loneliness

True singleness means that you have managed to build roots from within you to an extent that you don’t depend on outer environment for your joy. The state where your sufficiency is not depending on the outer environment.

Now let me just say something here, especially for those who say they are singles and yet if you look at them you will realize that they’re not truely singles.
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😂😂 if you are dressing up to impress someone from the church or around your street, then you are not single. Meaning that your dressing is not decided by yourself but with that person, he/she makes decision for you, even if you have never spoken to them.

You are two in one, even if you are not in a relationship, you are not mentally single. Someone is making contributions on your choices.

If your behavior is focused on what another person is going to say about it, then you are not single my friend. It’s just that you don’t have a partner, that doesn’t mean that you are single

Ladies and gentlemen listen to this, if you are trying to fake behaviors so that someone can like you, sister you are not single, your mind is floating😂😂😂

True singleness means that you have managed to live with yourself, understand yourself, and mastered almost all areas in yourself. It means taking time to invest in yourself

It is Impossible to live with another person if you have not managed to live with yourself

Let me say this

“When you don’t feel a need of having a partner, is a sure sign that you are ready for Relationship, but when you have a strong desire for a partner is a sure sign that you are not ready for it”

What is disqualifying you from having a partner is actually that desire you are having for a partner.

What is qualifying you for a partner is the mental and physical independence you have, ( known as singleness/aloneness)

Your desires for a partner is actually the one which delays you. Not even the devil. That desire is the one that is killing you.

Adam was busy with his assignment that was given to him by God Himself. To cultivate and keep the garden. He was busy making values out of the resources he had.

Infact for God to give Adam Eve was not an easy job. God had to interrupt Adam’s schedule, for Him to make a woman out of him.

“God had to make Adam fall asleep”

Walokole mnisikilize hapa.

The guy was so committed to developing himself to an extent that the issue of having a wife was not in his mind. And God saw that state and came with an idea, “he now needs a helper”

Is not because Adam was lonely, no. Adam was alone.

He was busy fulfilling his assignments. He was busy upgrading himself in his purpose.

Listen, in marriage some of the behaviors that your husband/wife is showing you, is not all because of his/her shortcomings, some are just a reflection of some characters in you that you have not managed to eliminate.

She/he is just reflecting you. If you could have lived with yourself even for few minutes, you could have seen them and removed them from you.

Before you expect to listen to anyone, please listen to yourself first,

Before you judge anyone judge yourself first.

Before you become a pastor to anyone, pastor yourself first.

Master your own behaviors before you master anyone’s behavior.

Before asking “is she/he the right one for me?” Ask yourself “I’m I the right one for him/her?”.

The reason why sometimes God doesn’t answer such questions like ” Lord, is she/he the right one for me?” Is because God is looking at you 😂😂 and saying “son you still need to work on yourself”

I like what the Bible says concerning love to your neighbor👇🏻👇🏻

Luke 10:27
[27]And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.

Akajibu akasema, Mpende Bwana Mungu wako kwa moyo wako wote, na kwa roho yako yote, na kwa nguvu zako zote, na kwa akili zako zote; na jirani yako kama nafsi yako.

To God give all, but to your neighbor, ( meaning your wife, your husband, your friend, your child, or anyone close to you) as you love yourself.
No one can love you more than they love themselves.

So we have this brother/sister, the way she/he treats herself is not pleasant at all, and yet you expect that she/he will love you most😂😂

How do I know the limit to the love I must show to my neighbor,? “is by understanding how much I love myself”

To be continued…..

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