Episode 01
A JOURNEY TOWARDS MEETING A PARTNER FOR MARRIAGE
Under this we are going to look at two things
1: Qualities of a husband material
- Qualities of a wife material
1: Qualities of a husband material ( intro…)
This is among questions that ladies ask several times. Asking yourself this kind of a question as a lady who is expecting to have a good family and a healthy relationship, means that you are determined and you are serious about life.
The most interesting 😂😂 part is that some ladies ask this question after messing up several times, and finding out that those fellows were just playing around with their dignities, is when they come to their senses asking “how do I know the husband material?”🤔. After finding out that all men that came to her were never serious, is when she now comes to her senses.
Some of them have been brutally hurt in whatever they called Relationship.
Not only ladies should know this but also men, should know this too.
It is very important to know whether you are a husband material or not, so that when any lady finds herself so interested in you, you may just find a way to escape so that you don’t end up messing her life or messing yourself up.
We must fully come to agreement that “experiences are not always good teachers” some experiences are like poisons to the right perception of life. Some experiences are very brutal and wicked. There are some people who are very afraid to try anything because of the past experiences, there are people who are very cruel and bitter to others even to themselves not because they were like that before, but because of what they went through..
Their experiences have made them to look at life in a very bitter and unpleasant way. Such a person if you meet him/her the way he/she will treat you, is as if you are the one who sent the other person to betray him/her.
Some will have their own definitions of this male and female relationship thing. And the way they will define it will be in a very dirty and fornicative manner.
I’ve personally met this young man, who was fornicating and committing adultery with any young lady he found. He would propose and at the end of proposal he would end up bringing the lady to his house. And it would not last two days before he could bring the other one. So I followed him and called him, and asked the reason he was doing that to himself and to those ladies. And when he began to speak I realized the level of hate he had towards women. He hated them so much to an extent that he saw them as sex objects. And the poor ladies didn’t even know that the guy they thought loved them was doing all those in the name of hate. He would spend money on women and make sure he succeeded in seducing them.
And my question was, “how was he able to pretend to be nice to them until these women were attracted to him?” How was he hiding this hate to an extent that those ladies were seeing him as a saint? Because he was even deceiving women from the church too. Because he was sometimes playing gospel music in his house especially when he was visited by some of these women.
This was his behavior, pretending to be holy yet, he was a messenger of fornication.
And I realized that it was because of an experience he went through, that made his entire life to be rotten. So he never appreciated whatever a woman would say to him. He saw them as evil creatures and as those who knew nothing except adultery.
Yes, there are also some women/ladies who hate men simply because of experiences they have been through. They are not willing to get into any Relationship because of some wicked boys out there who presented a wrong picture about men to them.
And I wonder, “why do you need to get in all those? Is there any need for engaging such a wicked lifestyle for you to come to realize yourself?”
NO, a very big No
There are men who treats their wives in a very bad manner, just because of what they saw their mother doing to their father.
There are also men who treats their wives badly because of the way their own father treated their mother. No wisdom at all in them. (This is very common to those who grew up in a family where the father had more than one wife) that kind of life printed a very strange character in them.
There are also women that treats their husbands in very bad way, because of what their mother taught them. When their mother was mistreated by their father, the mother could just draw a teaching from that and feed her daughters with statements. And that became like a print in their hearts, a character that is very difficult to erase.
You find yourself working hard with your wife, believing that you are investing for the benefit of the family and for the happiness of both, yet the wife is busy investing and constructing somewhere secretly😂😂😂, because she was told not to trust men that she should study so that her husband should not undermine her. So in a marriage she is busy building her own life somewhere else, getting ready to leave any time😂😂😂. It was a training given by the mother who was mistreated by her husband, yet the attitude is not right according to God’s view of the marriage.
Bad experiences have resulted into a wrong perception of life, especially when it comes to Relationships
Listen “it is not a must that you should get into a wrong direction for you to know the right direction”
It is not a must that you should mess up for you to know the right path
What then is the position of the Holy Spirit in your life?
What then is the work of the Holy Spirit in your life?
You can get it right at the very first courtship, as long as you are obedient to the Holy Spirit.
If you have found yourself in a wrong Relationship, maybe because of lack of knowledge, then don’t worry you can still make it right and start all over again
God is a God of order, He is not the author of confusion
1 Corinthians 14:40
[40]Let all things be done decently and in order.
Lakini mambo yote na yatendeke kwa uzuri na kwa utaratibu.
There is a way that pleases God and society around you. Because whatever pleases God must also please the society around you. They must find wisdom in it. When God has exalted something, He makes sure that the same thing is honored even in the society around you. Especially the believers
One of the indications that this thing has found favour before God is when the same thing has also obtained favor before people (especially the believers)
I believe I’m communicating something here🤔🤔
When God honors you, the indication that you are honored is when you have found favour before men. When God honors whatever you are doing, every other thing must reflect that honor. People must honor you too.
Job 5:21,23
[21] Thou shalt be hid from the scourge of the tongue: neither shalt thou be afraid of destruction when it cometh.
Utafichwa na mapigo ya ulimi; Wala usiogope maangamizo yatakapokuja.
[23]For thou shalt be in league with the stones of the field: and the beasts of the field shall be at peace with thee.
Kwani utakuwa na mapatano na mawe ya bara; Nao wanyama wa bara watakuwa na amani kwako.
When what you are doing is right before God, even men shall praise it. And they shall honor it. And the glory of your God shall manifest through it.
You can not be busy hidding with that fellow, sleeping around and yet you expect it to find favour before God. Yet you expect your pastor to speak nicely about you. Something that even God has cursed you still pray over it. Thinking that one day God will come to understand😂😂😂
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