Episode 02
A JOURNEY TOWARDS MEETING A LIFE PARTNER
1: Qualities for a husband material (cont…)
Ladies I want to communicate something here.
Marriage is not just about getting someone who you are going to spend your life with
Waaait a minute🤔🤔🤔 did I just say “spending your life with?” you got me right🤨🤨. But please come to think well about it 👉🏻👉🏻 Marriage is about getting someone who you are going to spend your “ENTIRE” life with.
Did anyone see the “ENTIRE” there?🙄🙄. Yes I mean your entire life with.
You can choose friends, and when they don’t seem to get along well with you, you can trash them away. You can leave one career and take another one. From year one of your life, up to where you are now, you had a very big room for choices. And now you are coming to a place where you are to make a decision that will affect the rest of the life ahead of you. And the question is whom do I give this position in my life, whom do I accept to affect my entire life?
Since it is a decision that once you have made, it will be difficult nearly impossible to change.
🙄🙄 uhm wait; did I just say that? Yes, I did😃.
If you can agree with me look at what young people call “Relationships” today. 👉🏻👉🏻 The devil knows this well, there is a person who is right for that position, now what the devil does, or sometimes what your ignorance does is to allow some people who are not fit for that position in your heart to occupy it. Now whether it is a wrong or right Relationship, at any break-up there is a pain that is so difficult for you to bear. 🏃🏽♂️🏃🏽♂️🏃🏽♂️You can just trash a friend without feeling any pain actually. But when it comes to Relationship there is a pain that you feel just because the person is leaving you. This shows how powerful this thing is, up to a level that it needs proper decision and sound mind, specifically the help of the Holy Spirit to take you in there.
I said proper reasoning and sound mind because, marriage is not about feelings am telling you this 👉🏻👉🏻 “feelings don’t always work with marriage”👈🏻👈🏻
Because feelings die
Marriage is all about commitment 👈🏻👈🏻 read that again🤨 MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT COMMITMENT
Just because you have feelings for that guy then he is fit for you NO. If it is feelings that is driving you into a relationship then you are a very big looser my sister.
Do you know that people who are cheating in relationships and marriages are majorly driven with their emotions, it is very easy easy for the devil to mislead your imotions to someone else who is not your wife/husband. Because emotions don’t serve a healthy relationship.
The reason why most of young people mess it up in life especially in relationships, is because what they just engage themselves into, has no commitment in it, those relatinships were driven by emotions. And this is the reason that girl/that boy dumped you. They are just “irresponsible”
Listen to me young lady👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
In this world; yes I mean in this current world, “among million men that are driven by feelings towards you, you can find only five committed men” do you know that those who just want to be in a relationship with you, most of them follow you because of your looks, they are busy comparing one look to the other, This is the reason the moment they see another lady more beautiful than you ( because they don’t even know what beauty is all about) they will end up making excuses to leave you and to dump you off. Never committed boys.
Finding men who are never under control of their feelings, but have mastered marturity, men who are committed and coming into your life to rescue your dignity and honor it, those men are very rare these days
Now my daughters, if you are ever going to look for someone to get married to, please look for these things inside that man👇🏻👇🏻
- Intimacy with God,
Don’t just look for a church boy, because in the church we also have mice 🐁 living there,. That fellow must be fully martured in God to an extent that he is willing to submit to every instruction from the Holy Spirit. Someone who has surrendered himself to the Holy Spirit, to an extent that God is everything in his life.
My daughters don’t forget to check the knowledge of God inside the man. The person who has surrendered fully for God, will never hurt you, that person will love you because he wouldn’t want to disappoint the image of God in him. In that man’s hand you are safe.
Before Adam could have Eve, the only person he had was God, that is the only person in his life. And He kept his place, and duties with honor until God decided to gift him with a wife.
He was not panting for a partner as many young people are today. Daughter if you see someone who is panting for relatinships like that is the only thing he is meant for, run away, and don’t look back. Run for your life.
The first qualification that this man is suitable for you, is the way he treats His God, you have to see the picture of how he treats God, and you will know how you are going to be treated.
The guy doesn’t even pay tithe at the church and yet you think that he will be faithful to you and buy you whatever you want? Who lied to you🤨?, After few days in marriage you will hear these statements from him “I don’t have money…..do you think I just walk through the door and pick money like leaves outside?”, And these harsh answers you are getting just because you asked for money to go and buy some vegetables or for salon. They become very harsh when they don’t have money, to an extent that they don’t control whatever comes out of their mouths. And they don’t even realize that they are talking to their wives. When they are broke, they will treat you as if they are dealing with some garage fellow.
That is the way they even treat God, when it comes to Offerings and tithes, they think that they’re being exploited. “Even God knows that I don’t have money”.
When God gives you someone, He gives you a person that He Himself have walked with, and has tested and trusted. The man whose heart God knows, because He seen the way he was treating Him. And God has taught him to become like Him.
Someone that God has trusted to an extent that He can trust him with your life.
And this is what we mean by “He comes from God”
Those fellows that are busy texting you throughout the night, end up hurting you become they never came from God but you chose them yourself.
Marriage is not just a physical connection, it is more Spiritual than it is physically so you need someone who can stand for you and fight battles for you in the spirit. Someone who will strengthen you when you have been attacked and stand with you in the battleground. Not that Okoro from Filabusi, who knows nothing concerning spiritual world, who is the gateway of the devil, whenever the devil wants to attack you and make your life bitter, then he is the one being used.
Be very careful my daughters
Not that person when you can’t perform well, then he is finding a reason to run away, without even realizing that the marriage is under attack. Because he is so much interested in your body more than responsibility. That emotionally driven fool from Gomorrah.🤣
The guy who is not there for you but for himself, because he has never at any time given himself for God, he doesn’t know what sacrifice is all about. Serving his own interests.
My daughters when someone like this comes to you, run for your lives, you better die without getting married, rather than entering there with a wrong person. Don’t register yourself willingly to live in hell for the rest of your life RUN
To be continued…
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