A JOURNEY TOWARDS MEETING A LIFE PARTNER
1: Qualities for a husband material (cont…)
(Recap….) 👉🏻My sisters whenever you going to seek for a man to marry you, please look at this things in a man
1:Intimacy with God……..that fellow must be fully martured in God…..he wouldn’t want to to disappoint the image of God in in him……he is finding a reason to run away…… be very careful my daughters….. I don’t have money….run away…. the way he treats his God…… marriage is more Spiritual than it is physically…..run for your lives.
Episode 03
Another thing that you must look for in a man is
2: Look for the man with a vision a man who is committed to his vision. The gift that God ever gave to a man is the vision. Only men with visions need helpers. Remember that God provided Adam with an helper because of the assignment that Adam had. ( Gen 2:18). Only a person with divine assignment understands the value/importance of a helper.
Listen to this ladies, I know it’s a duty of every lady to cook, but this is not supposed to be the motive for a man to find a wife. If you hear him say “I want someone to cook for me and to wash my clothes” run, remember you are not going to a small prison. Ask him, “before he met you, who cooked for him?” Continue asking another question “you are coming to me, as I am seeing you now you look so smart, who washed your clothes?”.
These things my sisters are a sign of love in marriage, when there is much love, a woman who who loves her husband must cook and wash clothes for him. But it is not the assignment that you are coming to assist.
My sisters, read this carefully.
A man who values and working towards his vision, will value yours too. Because he knows the cost for maintaining a vision and working towards a vision.
This one will not want you for a bed, because he understands that you desire to be a respected wife and a mother of a descent family. And you are willing to keep yourself pure for that, so he will understand and respect your dignity, he will not rush you to bed because he would not want to defile your honor. And sometimes he will be instructing you to be pure and descent, himself being an example. He will teach you in the way of the Lord who gave him the vision. And will always be grateful to God for bringing you into his life, and he will always keep you safe.
Such a man, your prosperity will be his joy because at the end he knows that having you is the best thing ever that happened in his life. He will share his goals with you, and you will plan together concerning your future.
My daughters, such a man will open your eyes to understand that marriage is not all about sex, but it is about something greater and powerful. The brighter future full of love and joy. And it is about commitment. About joining hands together to achieve something bigger in life.
This is how you know a man with a vision (listen to me carefully sisters and don’t ruin your lives over foolish boys out there).
👉🏻 He is someone attached to God Because only God can show men the reason He created them.
👉🏻 Doesn’t lie someone who hates lies and never entertain lies,. When he comes to you the very first time he will not find some fake untrue words to impress you, he will tell you the reality of his life, so that when you ignore him you must have a good reason to and when you accept him you must be doing it with your eyes open and not because he has worked so hard to convince you. He knows that lie doesn’t stay for a long time, and that might damage his plans towards his visions in life, so he won’t entertain lies anymore. And because he believes that he must be true to God and to himself.
Some men are very cunning, they first study what a lady likes, they might even ask you before you ask them, just to find how they are going to twist their statements to fit in your desires. And once the find out, they are going to make some untrue statements about themselves so that you can trust them. If you are a lady and you like people who are God-fearing they will try to pretend to be God fearing so that they can get your attention, if you love someone who is educated, they will find a way to lie about themselves, to get you.
And the danger is that when you come to get the whole truth that he kept it will be too late, you will find that you have done some serious bad things, all time that you were trapped in his lie.
This is a sure sign of a person who doesn’t understand his potential a looser in life. They feel they can’t get anything good until they lie. Because they have seen nothing good in themselves.
A person with a vision doesn’t need to lie to attract you, because he himself understand that he needs a serious woman, so they tell the truth concerning their lives so that they may see if you are interested in some fake life, or you are a responsible woman. And many times they lightly talk about themselves, they will not allow you to admire them because of any advantage they’ve got because they want to secure their visions for the right woman who will value and help them out.
👉🏻 Doesn’t drink/smoke/womanise They love themselves and their future. In other words they love their wives and their children to an extent that they can’t engage in any behavior that damages them.
Sisters if you see a boy ( because they are not men) who whispers to you along the road, and the very first day he asks for your phone number, 🏃🏻♀️🏃🏻♀️🏃🏻♀️RUN FOR YOUR LIFE,. Because that one is under the influence of an evil spirit.
If you see any man drinking, having fornicative behaviors, lustful eyes, run. That one doesn’t even love himself, he can’t love you, even if he’s saying it to you ten thousand times, he’s just lying ten thousand times🤨.
👉🏻 A man with a vision, documents/writes his vision look to see if what he is telling there is a place where he wrote it, before meeting you. If he is writing it down because he has seen you and because you have asked it, walk away. That one is trying to impress you.
Before falling in love with you, he must have fallen in love with his own vision, spending nights writting and re-reading his vision, meditating, planning and doing everything to fulfill his vision. To an extent that even your appearance into his life has to be like you are somehow interrupting him.
There are men that when you ask them “please show me where we are going” he will be like 😂😂 “wait let me prepare it next week we’ll meet and I’ll show it to you” . Not because he kept them far, but because it is you that shocked them with a question so they are buying time to answer you.😂😂
God’s instructions concerning visions is very simple “write the vision down and put it plain…”
Habakkuk 2:2
[2]And the LORD answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.
BWANA akanijibu, akasema, Iandike njozi ukaifanye iwe wazi sana katika vibao, ili aisomaye apate kuisoma kama maji.
This is a very strong sign for trust. It means that you trust God with the vision you have.
And it also means that you can be trusted by anybody who is coming across your visions to support it.
After you have seen the vision at least you know where to support. And it is a guarantee that you are not engaging with a looser, who will end up destroying your life. But you have a hope for victory.
3. Look at the way that man spends his money.
Sisters understand that life is all about sowing and reaping. And you reap only what you sow.
In your marriage you are going to have children, and other stuffs to sustain you. So it requires people with an investment mindset. Not consumers.
If you see any man whose life is much into spending, be careful because that one can be a door for poverty to enter the family. That one is busy calling poverty in. And will not be able to look after you. Be careful and avoid such men.
As the Bible says
Proverbs 21:20
[20] There is treasure to be desired and oil in the dwelling of the wise; but a foolish man spendeth it up.
Kuna hazina ya thamani na mafuta katika maskani ya mwenye hekima; Bali mwanadamu aliye mpumbavu huyameza.
To be continued….
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