A JOURNEY TOWARDS MEETING A LIFE PARTNER ( Episode 04)
Qualities for a husband material
Previously……
- Look for the one who has Intimacy with God
- Look for the man with a vision
- Consider the way that man spends his money
My sisters don’t forget toLook at the way he honors his parents
4. Look at the way he honors his parents
The man that honors his parents is to be honored in generations to come. Because he has chosen where blessings come from and he knows how to treat blessings. Your family will be at peace because the same way he will treat your parents.
Let us understand this my sisters, hear me so carefully and attain the wisdom😊😊. Let the Spirit of the Lord teach you so that you can get understanding and fatten yourself with knowledge. So that your face shall shine,. 👇🏻👇🏻
The moment you are married not only that you have that man for life, but you have receive the grace for expansion. Where you no longer have two parents, but you have expanded to having four parents. In other words, you are much safer than before.
Parents are not against your happiness, the way you will behave with them is what will fight you or protect you.
Now hear this👇🏻👇🏻
Being married doesn’t only mean that you are united to that man. But it also mean that you are taking that man’s parents to be your parents too, and he is taking your parents to be his parents too.
Imagine the kind of marriage where you introduce a gentleman at home and just the very first day your parents sees him and they are amazed, asking you with joy “how did you get to know that gentleman?, I mean how was he able to see you among women? …..Did you see how respectful he is? Wow, even the way he speaks is amazing, my daughter this is the man for life, you have just gotten yourself a gold don’t let it go from you”
A man highly respectful, to an extent that even your parents are worried if you can live well with him, not because he is a difficult man but because he is just too good 😊😊. That your parents are now worried about your behavior not his behavior.😊😊
Now hear this
Since you are going to unite families together, please check the way that man treats his own parents, he might not be insulting his parents, but check this. Let yourself be wise.
The Bible says
Exodus 20:12
[12] Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.
Waheshimu baba yako na mama yako; siku zako zipate kuwa nyingi katika nchi upewayo na BWANA, Mungu wako.
The Bible says honour your father and your mother….
Now the term “honour”, there doesn’t mean behaving well when you are with your father and mother only. It doesn’t mean hiding some foolish behaviors that your father or mother may not see them, and pretending to behave well when you are with them.
It means giving your parents respect, it means hiding their shame so that others may not see their short comings. It means exalting your parents before you and before others too. It means you should not allow yourself to despise your parents, and also you should not allow others to despise your parents.
Sisters if you meet a man that says this statement to you “my father has been like this and this and now he can’t support me……” Any statements that seems like trying to make you undermine his parents contributions into his life. RUN.
Because the same way he will look at your parents, if he is allowing you to look at his parents in an inferior manner, what makes you think that he will respect your parents?.
Remember those parents have been with him for more than twenty years, and you are now meeting him at twenty five years old. Yet you think that he will spare your short comings, if the shortcomings of his own parents he couldn’t cover, what makes you think that you are safe in his arms?.
Some speak statements concerning their parents, to an extent that if that parent would have been there hearing all those statements he/she could have broken into tears,😭😭 not believing that their own child can speak that way concerning them.
Another thing is that it is a sign of irresponsibility as a man you are supposed to work hard and find a way to feed your house, and not use your parents condition to seek financial assistance.
And yet some lady, is still attached to such a man, this is a man that will always blame people for his failure. And once he is done with everybody, he’ll come to you again like “I could have been far but because I have my wife I couldn’t get there/I delayed” a man that doesn’t understand that you came as a helper not a destroyer or a burden. And once he is done with with you he’ll come to the children, “if only I couldn’t be educating these children, I would have been very far in life”😂😂😂.
Busy attaching people to his failures. And most dangerously his parents exposing the nakedness of his parents. Something which he is supposed to cover by honor.
If your husband is like that😂😂, saying that he couldn’t do well in life because he was feeding you and clothing you. just ask him this simple question “I met you at thirty years of age, at that time you had no wife nor children, what did you do with twelve years of your life from 18 to 30years, what were you doing? Who was stopping you from prosperity then?”.
But you don’t need to get this far. Please don’t entertain a man that makes excuses on his parents, asking money in the name of “my dady can’t support me well for now”. RUN RUN RUN AWAY FROM SUCH A PERSON MY SISTERS.
And the Bible continue saying.
Exodus 20:12
[12]Honour thy father and thy mother: *that thy days may be long upon *”the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee”.*
Waheshimu baba yako na mama yako; siku zako zipate kuwa nyingi katika “nchi upewayo na BWANA, Mungu wako”.
Listen my sisters
“Marriage is a land that God has given you” to keep and to maintain. The days you are going to enjoy living in that land depends on how much your parents blesses it. A long, happy peaceful marriage, is sealed in the blessings of the parent. That is obtained by honoring them. This is the reason for people who are serious in marriage, seek parental blessings so that that marriage can be happy without sorrow.
The Bible says “…so that you may dwell long in the land that the Lord your God has given you” meaning that even if it is the Lord that has accepted that relatinship still there is a possibility of living there shortly and with sorrow,. When parents are dishonoured.
God is a just God, the blessings of the parents are attracted even in their absence, meaning that even if they are far from you, physically, the honor that you give them attract blessings to you.
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