A JOURNEY TOWARDS MEETING A LIFE PARTNER (Episode 05)
Qualities for a husband material
Previously….
- Look for the one who has intimacy with God
- Look for the one with a vision
- Consider the way that man spends his money
- Look at the way he honors his parents
- Look at the way he treats his siblings
6. Check the way he grooms himself
My sisters wherever you are going to look for a husband, check the way that guy keeps himself.
Self-grooming means the way a person treats himself.
Is it not a good thing that during weddings we have groom and bride? Those words come from the concept of self – keeping. A man who has kept himself pure for the lady that God will give him is what we call a groom
Look for a groom not a lover. Look for someone who has kept himself pure mentally, spiritually and physically for you. Someone that in his entire life, was waiting for you.
Not every man, deserves you, young lady. Not every man is able to understand your value.
Only those who have once lived with themselves can live with you.
There are people who have never kept themselves, and yet they want to have a precious woman like you. Be very careful
The person must first love himself first. Before loving you.
The Bible talks about “loving your neighbor as yourself”
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Luke 10:27
[27]And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself.
Meaning that, the measure to which you must love your neighbor, is the way you love yourself.
In other words, you can never love anyone more than you love yourself.
No one can love you more than they love themselves, it’s either they love less or the same way as they love themselves.
You can never perform beyond your your experience. You can never perform anything beyond what you know.
The way of grooming is very important.
My sisters, don’t go for anyone who has been sleeping around with women, that one is not a groom, that guy who is after ladies every time moved whenever he sees ladies passing nearby. That one is a messer, allow me to say that he is the devil.
He has messed his own life and ethics, and now he wants to mess yours too.
That kind of a person will abuse you.
Now these are the indications of a man that has groomed himself well.
👉🏻 He loves himself as I said that no one can love you more than they love themselves, it is either they love you less or the same way as themselves. The way he cares for himself will indicate how he is going to care for you, the way he loves himself indicates how much he is going to love you.
At least you can have a picture of how much you are going to be loved by the way he loves himself. The way he keeps himself from many useless friends indicates how he is going to protect you from bad influences.
Check his dressing style, don’t go for shaggy men. 😂😂😂. A man that is well groomed, will try to look good even if he doesn’t have much clothes. Looking smart doesn’t need much clothes, but the way you manage the clothes you have.
Looking neat also, indicates smartness of mind. A man who is smart mentally must consider his looks.
Not that guy, with long beards looking like a terrorist😂😂😂.
At least he must regard his looks, the same will consider your looks as well. Because he loves smart things around him.
👉🏻 Cares for his surrounding how is his house arranged. Matters a lot. His room has never welcomed any lady because he respects a wife that God will give him
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Hebrews 13:4
[4]Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
The man must keep his bed clean, undefiled. Now this means that his body must be undefiled too. He must keep it clean for you.
Even before meeting you, he has to be waiting for you believing that one day God will bring you to him. And he must have evidences that he has kept himself, not willing to engage in anything bad, just for you and for his children. Understanding that marriage is an institution where characters are developed and futures are built and generations are birthed.
So the man must prepare himself to be a mentor to many generations.
Check the way that gentleman, keeps his house. The same will understand your efforts to make the house clean and will always appreciate you. Not that dirty fellow from chalusi😂😂😂, who doesn’t care, you have been mopping the house since morning, then he comes with his friends, noises everywhere, doesn’t even know when you are tired. All he will keep saying, whenever you complain about his behavior is “you are lazy”.😂😂😂.
👉🏻 has good and respectful language the man who can keep his words can keep his soul.
Check his speech, how does he speak whenever he is near people. If he can’t mind dirty statements from his lips, he won’t even mind how he speaks to you.
Whatever fills a person is what comes out of him. The dirty statements, if he can’t mind talking them he can’t also mind doing them.
There is a saying that goes. “You don’t have to feel ashamed of saying what you were never ashamed of thinking”.
So this guy must be of good statements, he must be able to listen to himself before listening/speaking to anybody.
Ladies be smart, you are not just choosing a husband but a life – coach to your children. Look at what he is going to teach your children by looking at the way he grooms himself.
To be continued…
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