A JOURNEY TOWARDS MEETING A LIFE PARTNER (Episode 06)
Qualities for a husband material
Previously…..
- Look for the one who has intimacy with God
- Look for the one with a vision
- Consider the way that man spends his money
- Look at the way he honors his parents
- Look at the way he treats his siblings
- Check the way he grooms himself
Continues….
A man of good character is appreciated even with relatives,
Let me share something here about Jesus. Jesus did not only do miracles away from his hometown, but also his parents knew Him to an extent that when the wine was finished in Cana, His mother came to Him, though His time was not yet, His mother recruited people saying “whatever He will say to you, that should you do”
(John 2:1-9).
His good character must be noticed by others. To an extent that when they discover that you are the one who is going to be married by that gentleman, some have to feel jealous😂😂, ( because they have expected for years for that gentleman even to flatter with them – kuwatania, but they came empty handed)
👉🏻 you are just engaged to a man that they were praying and fasting to marry them😂😂😂. (It’s a joke😂😂)
His good manners have to be a witness before him, to give him access to prosperity and favor before both old and young.
The Bible says in the book of
1 Timothy 4:12
[12] Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.
Mtu awaye yote asiudharau ujana wako, bali uwe kielelezo kwao waaminio, katika usemi na mwenendo, na katika upendo na imani na usafi.
My sisters seek to find a person who has not allowed his youth to be despised. Someone who is like an icon, a model among believers.
You have an eye there, 👉🏻 believers
Sometimes you might have a difficult time to know if this one is the real one or a fake one, as I said during our season one episode 03 of this subject. Some are very good at faking life.
If you are stranded in this area not knowing which is which then “let believers be your eyes”. Seek to find how believers comment him. How his pastor comment him. What label does he have in his local church.
Is he the positive influencer of other youths in the church?🤔🤔🤔.
Let the believers be your eyes
7. That gentleman must be engaged in something profitable
Many people say that you don’t have to consider what someone is doing to be in love with him. But this is quite a false perspective of life and Relationship. Remember that God is not sending you there to suffer
Ladies are we together🤔🤔
Please check what that man is doing for a living. A determined husband must consider what his children are going to put on, what his family is going to eat, where his family is going to live. If that gentleman is not engaged in anything that gives him profit. Please don’t go for that lazy fellow.
“if you love me you will not consider my condition”😂😂, that statement is true, but some fellows are using it wrongly to defend laziness.
Please ask him, what are you doing for a living. Of course you love me, but children are not going to sleep on our love, I am not going to wear your love on my body. I’m not going to eat your love and be full in my stomach.
Some guys hear this, some ladies are running away from you not because they didn’t love you, but because they are too smart to suffer😂😂😂. Scratch your head.
If that fellow is really determined, he must work against poverty by any means.
Am telling you, even if he has the vision written down as we saw lastly, still ask him “what have you done so far concerning the vision/ what are you doing concerning the vision you have?”
If he is not giving you some reasonable answer, please just tell him “brother, let’s call it a day”🧐🧐🧐
Do you know that most of these lazy guys are very jealous, they always think that they are inferior to those who are busy working. The moment they see you talking to someone they will be like “who was that guy? 🤨, ….What were you talking about? Do you want to leave me because I’m not wealthy?🤨, ….I know you are not texting me because I’m not having as much money as you have….oh, you despise my poor condition….” Brother cut that rubbish and work.
If he is really determined to work, where does he get time to check and match his condition with somebody else’s?
Some guys embrace poverty and want to make it as a ticket to prove true love.
Marriage is a place, it is a garden prepared by the Lord, for you. So that you may find joy and feel satisfied and in that joy, you can be more efficient in fulfilling your purpose. It is not a place where you are sent to suffer and travail
God cannot send you into unprepared Eden,
Look at this children of God👇🏻👇🏻
Genesis 2:15
[15]And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.
BWANA Mungu akamtwaa huyo mtu, akamweka katika bustani ya Edeni, ailime na kuitunza.
Working did not come after the fall of man, no no no no. After the fall, man was to work and eat his own sweat. Because the land was cursed because of sin. But before the fall, he was working,
Eve found Adam working, Adam was not a lazy fellow, getting early to bed like a chicken and late to rise like a goat.
Before God could give Adam a wife, He gave him a job. To tend and to keep the garden, and Adam was busy doing this.
God is a very strategic God, He can’t allow you to get into unprepared place, where you don’t even know how the channels of income are located.
Living by faith is not sitting without working, living by faith means that you trust God with His procedures to make you rich. You know how to locate favor and go for it at the right time. That is the true meaning of living by faith.
Trusting God even with your certificate, that is living by faith. It doesn’t mean sleeping at the wrong place and expecting food to come😂😂
You have to be at the place of work (field of work) so that when God provides bread, you will see and pick it up and take it home. Am I communicating something here?
Now let me turn to ladies because I was talking to them.
Now my sisters.
Working is a sign of expectation, a man that is engaged into something profitable, means that he is expecting to have a family. He has set himself ready for a family. That family will not catch him by surprise.
It is a sure sign that that man is investing in his vision.
I say that “it is not proper for a parent to complain that, he is broke because he is educating his children”
Children are not supposed to be a burden to you. Children are blessings, not burdens. Having Children is a sign that you are expanding your territory, you are advancing.
God can not give you Children that you can’t control. If you knew that you are going to have children, you could have prepared an environment for them earlier.
We still have a lot to discuss, but to keep the topic short. Let me put it this way.
“Find someone who invests in his vision”,.
👉🏻The sign that a person is not growing is when he complains about everything, when you meet a person who complains over anything, just know, that he is stagnant somewhere😊😊😊😊
SHALOM
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