A JOURNEY TOWARDS MEETING A LIFE PARTNER (Episode 07)
Welcome to a new phase
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Qualities for a wife material
Now let me talk to my brothers here😃😃😃😃. Bros are you here? Prepare some deep voice to say “Amen”.😂😂
My brothers, listen to this voice so that you may dwell in favor. And that thy land shall have no sorrow.
Whenever you are going to look for a woman to marry, don’t just look for a female partner, don’t let your desires overun your sight.
They say that “love is blind” 🤔🤔 but I don’t think that statement is correct, love has to open your eyes and not blind you. It has to enlighten you and not trap you.
Listen to me even you ladies, some of the reason people loose themselves in relatinship issues is because “they are falling in love”, LOVE is not a place to fall “it is a place to grow”, it is a place to rise. Some white guys came with these fornicative statements and we have embraced such rubbish.
Do you know that, when you say “I’ve fallen in love” what you are saying is this “I’ve abandoned my common senses/ I no longer use my brains/ I’ve become foolish ( a mumuu), I’m trapped to an extent that I no longer reason well”. 👆🏻👆🏻 And those words, were used by those in Western world to legalize immoral behaviors. Look at their telenovelas. Even Children are falling.
We are not a fallen generation, we are a found generation, a risen generation, a chosen generation.
Now, gentlemen Look these things in any woman.
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1: The fear of the Lord in her,
Now, the term fear of the Lord means, honoring God in whatever she does.
Ladies nowadays are church goers, not like men, it’s so surprising that a lady can lead praise and worship in church yet last evening she was with Okoro.
Most of ladies take church like some place to have fun, singing and jumping. Not as a body of Christ. And when such ladies appear before you, you may think that they are soo holy, soo anointed. A lady who keeps entertaining some foolish boys who knows nothing about Christ, doesn’t value herself, and such lady can not value your love or sacrifice.
Keeping yourself as a lady, is not motivated by marriage. There are some who think that they will change once they are married. No.
Look for a lady who keeps herself because of God. Look for a lady who is in the business of pleasing God in every aspect of her life. Who says “for God, I can’t do this, for Jesus I can’t engage myself into this kind of life style”.
If you find such, embrace her with all love, because the way she treats her God is the same way she will treat you.
Look for a lady who has submitted so much to God, to an extent that “she hates sin with every part of her being”,
Such will understand your value.
Check the fear of the Lord in a woman
The fear of the Lord, tells everything about that lady.
As the Bible says👇🏻👇🏻
Proverbs 9:10
[10]The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.
Kumcha BWANA ni mwanzo wa hekima; Na kumjua Mtakatifu ni ufahamu.
Meaning that if that woman fears the Lord, then she is wise,
Some men look for educated women, which is very good, but the intellect doesn’t guarantee wisdom, remember we have intellectual fools too🙄🙄.
Not because she is educated then she is wise, no. But intellect at some point opens a door for knowledge and by knowledge, wisdom.
Sons don’t go for intelligent fools, but rather go for intelligent wise
There are some women who when they speak with you, you will admire how smart they are, like “wow she seems to be so itelligent.” , Which is a very good thing a woman must have. But if there is no fear of the Lord in her, please be careful.
If she fears God then
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👉🏻 She hates evil (she hates sin)
As the Bible says
Proverbs 8:13
[13] The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.
Kumcha BWANA ni kuchukia uovu; Kiburi na majivuno, na njia mbovu, Na kinywa cha ukaidi pia nakichukia.
She is not someone who will just answer you anyhow,🤔 because before she speaks she judges every word that comes from her mouth.
Among things that hurt men is the froward mouth, a mouth that has got answers to everything ( unauliza kikombe kiko wapi then hata kabla hujamaliza tayari jibu hilo “kwani wewe hujui kabati lilipo au?”)
Know that this is the way they even deal with God, these are those that whenever they get into a little challenge, their complains are almost everywhere,
😂😂nawaonaga, kuna wakati napokea simu zingine hadi napigwa na mshangao, because they can’t see God, they put all complains on you. “Pray to that God of yours, I want to have this and this am tired”😂😂😂, and they can keep it like that for days and you know because of much understanding I just be like “don’t worry I’m praying for you”
Find a woman, a lady that can keep herself pure for God. A lady that hates sin because of her intimacy, the same will treat you better and will protect your marriage and family.
Sons listen to my counsel
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Proverbs 14:1
[1] Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Kila mwanamke aliye na hekima hujenga nyumba yake; Bali aliye mpumbavu huibomoa kwa mikono yake mwenyewe.
The guarantee that your marriage is going to last well, that your family is going to be stable, is all in the hands of a woman
It’s just a matter of what kind are you choosing.
I know you have kept yourself for long waiting for that lady, it’s now a time that you have to be careful in choosing.
Sons this is the counsel of an old fellow 👴🏿. I’ve lived for years my hair have turned grey for much wisdom that I have acquired, from the Lord. Let this that I speak to you be a seed that you will plant in your life, and generations to come, tell your sons that every good woman comes from the Lord
Tell them that that statement means that, “Good woman is recommended by God”, God can never recommend a woman that doesn’t fear Him
Son when you were a little boy you were the son of of your father and the beloved of your mother. You have grown up in the way of the Lord, please choose a wife from your own family. Choose a wife of your own kind
Choose a wife in the kingdom of God, don’t go for the outsiders. Check her awareness among the daughters in the house your Father.
If you are looking for a wife, look for a born again Christian if she doesn’t believe in salvation, ignore her, by doing that you will save your soul and entire life from danger.
Listen brother, going for unborn again lady, is like searching for the devil. He was once away from you, but you have now decided to kiss him. You will be drawing Lucifer close to you, putting a wedding ring on his finger.
And you will be living into hell whilst you are on Earth, your hell begins with marrying a wrong woman😅😅😅, you don’t need to wait for judgement day😆😆
To an extent that when someone asks you “where do you live?” Don’t say “I’m living in a house with my wife” just tell him “I’m living in hell with Lucifer”🤨🤨🤨
Now hear me sons. And mark this very well, your heart was made ready for a wife that comes from the Lord, The fear of the Lord is a very powerful ingredient every woman must have.
A woman that even God misses, she is too busy to have fellowship with God,. Her own fellowship with her creator is an issue, what makes you think that you shall enjoy her full attention, what makes you think that she will submit to you?.
She so much full of her own thoughts concerning this life what makes you think that she will have time to value your presence as a husband?
The way she treats her God, is the same way she is going to treat you
- Submission
Another thing sons, is to check for a level of submission in that lady.
Submission means “giving away yourself willingly and following whatever the other person tells you, believing that whatever he thinks or instructs you is for your own good, even if you don’t understand it at the moment” this is the meaning of submission.
Sons submission doesn’t begin after wedding, if she is waiting to submit to you after wedding then she will be faking it, she is deceiving you. She is a one disobedient soul, yet doesn’t want to stay alone.
A woman’s submission is tested, still when she is with her parents. How does she submit to her father/mother. And later on when in a relationship.
There must be something simbolizing submission in her. Sons don’t be “a bebi factor”, don’t be “a bebi victim”
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A 🐈 when in need, it will come to your feet and rub itself nicely, with a very smooth meau meau, voice (tone).
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This is not a guarantee for submission, the fact that you are being called bebi, doesn’t mean that she is submissive. “Don’t fall for cats” my son
The Bible says
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Ephesians 5:22
[22] Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Enyi wake, watiini waume zenu kama kumtii Bwana wetu.
Being a wife material is different from being a wife,.
Not every wife is a wife material. Not every husband is a husband material.
Being a wife material is something that has to be developed from within , it is a treasure that God has invested in a woman, it is a good character for quality.
Submission has to be developed before marriage, it has to be a character.
There are some women that are so much busy. They have this mindset “mwanaume wa nini” and yet they want to be married.
😂😂Do you know that the term, “Business” simply means “the state of being busy”. There are those who are busy for nothing. And God is a faithful God, you don’t ignore His protocol then expect to prosper. You will remain busy until you die.
Some women are just too busy to listen to their husbands. Wanasemaga kwamba wanachakarika and that is the reason they are experiencing less profits.
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