A JOURNEY TOWARDS MEETING A LIFE PARTNER ( Episode 08)
Qualities for a wife material
Brothers, if ever you are going to meet a lady for marriage please look for these qualities in that lady before you propose.
Before you set your heart to love any lady,.
Remember the higher you climb the mountain/ a tree, the more difficult and painful it becomes if you fall or for you to come down. ( Some have loved women and later came to realize that they have welcomed pain into their lives, and it has become more difficult and painful to them to let it go, because they have discovered that they have sacrificed much for a wrong person). But you son doesn’t have to get there, open your eyes lest you embrace someone who doesn’t worth it, lest you give pigs your pearl.
Sons The Bible says
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Matthew 7:6
[6] Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.
Msiwape mbwa kilicho kitakatifu, wala msitupe lulu zenu mbele ya nguruwe, wasije wakazikanyaga chini ya miguu yao, wakageuka na kuwararua.
That heart I know it is loving, it is full of bright future, and willingness to love your wife dearly and be a father and good husband. Don’t give it to pigs and dogs who no matter how you are going to sacrifice for them, they will always think that they deserve it and you need to do more than you are doing. They will despise you when you have nothing, And the moment you are run out of some things because you gave it all to them, they will use the same things to hurt you. Be careful brothers.
Yesterday we looked at the following factors
- The fear of the Lord
- Submission factor
And tonight let us look at another quality for a wife material.
- A good wife is sacrificial.
A good wife must be ready to sacrifice for the marriage.
Most ladies think that the one who is supposed to sacrifice is only the male part, No. Both parties must sacrifice to save and make sure that that relatinship/marriage stands at it’s top.
Girls nowadays feel like they need to get everything from men, they want men who already has everything, then ask yourself “if you meet a man who has everything, what is your contribution then in that marriage?”.
Girls nowadays feel ashamed, when their girlfriends find out that they are so committed to a guy. And this is where the whole foolishness come from. God doesn’t enjoy breakups, unless otherwise He didn’t order that relatinship”. There is this foolish ideas that ladies enjoy it when they are called “bad-girls” by their girlfriend.
Ladies today want everything ready at the table, they are not willing to wait for something that they don’t see at the given time. And this has caused many ladies to run away from very good husbands, simply because they saw nothing at the first place. And went for wrong guys who had things that they could see. They like fantasy, a life like a movie. Where dreams just come true like a magic. And wow they have all set. This is foolishness.
Now sons, understand this, let me speak wisdom to you.
“Whenever you are going to help anyone or approach any lady, know that you are just abandoning your own level going down to her level so that you can suit her.”. The Bible says the Husband is the savior of a wife’s flesh, just as Jesus is the savior of our sipirits, So going to propose any girl, is a salvation mission, you are risking your own standards to get into her standards so that you can save her dignity as a woman.
The problem is this “does she understand that kind of sacrifice”?
I believe that I’m talking to servants of God here, including myself, and anyone who has been trusted with a vision.
Before you meet any lady, know that you are at a certain level, certain standards in the spirit, you are seated somewhere higher, and at that level you could see your vision better. That is a view point of your vision. Now it takes you to leave your level going all the way down to her level to be able to fit in her life. So that the moment she realises that, and honors that then you can pull her up to your original level.
I said proposal is a salvation mission😊😊. Am I talking to men here.
Jesus who is our savior, could never save us in heaven, until He had to abandon His throne and Glory, coming all the way down to you, fitting in your level and living your life, to an extent that it became very difficult to accept that He was the savior.
He didn’t come with His glory, because he wanted to collect the fish only, not the crabs. He didn’t want you to accept Him because of His glory, that is the reason He left it up there, so that your faith in Him should not be rooted in what He has, but what He is.
My question is, “how many understand that kind of sacrifice?”,
And even after saving you He didn’t take you right away to Heaven, He is still looking at you, training you right in this life of yours so that you can be fit for Heaven.
Is there any lady that consider that kind of sacrifice, a lady who weeps for that. And says, after knowing the kind of man that God has given her “thank you for seeing me among many ladies😭, I’ll submit to you and willing to do everything for you, I’ll pray every day that God may give me wisdom on how to keep myself before you, because I’m afraid of loosing you”. God has given someone that He Himself has walked with for years, His servant that has been speaking to Him and talking with Him for all those years, yet you want to lecture him😂😂😂. You think that he is just attracted by your looks, you compare him with some lustful dogs that were whispering whenever they saw your looks🤔🤔,.
This one is very unique, this one is your Moses, ( ladies am I communicating something here?) be willing to sacrifice everything for him because he is sent to take you to the promised Land ( a healthy & blessed marriage), all instructions are given to Moses by God not Israelites. The direction is given to Moses, listen to him. Be willing to sacrifice your pride to keep him with you.
Don’t be much know, having childish behaviors with you, giving him headache at the very first stage of relatinship🧐
A woman that is willing to work together with you to achieve the goals that both of you have set, don’t ignore that, she is a counselor and comforter of your soul.
Son embrace her with all love.
- A good wife must be tolerant and patient and understanding
Such a woman will understand you, and having her will set you free from heart attack😂😂.
A woman who understands when there is nothing, even when you have panicked thinking of the way to explain the condition of your job to your wife,. You get into the house and the smile she gives you is as if you have expanded and settled everything with her, and yet at the point of explaining yourself, you even wonder how she has managed to understand you so quickly.
- A good woman must be hospitable
Hospitality is very important character that a woman must have.
Remember the moment you marry, you are turning your house into a home. The presence of a woman in the house, makes it a home.
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