A JOURNEY TOWARDS MEETING A LIFE PARTNER ( Episode 09)
Let us proceed…
Hospitality is a very important ingredient in a wife.
Your house has to be a place where people find every taste of life, there has to be a difference between when you are not married and when you are married. It has to be better with a wife than without a wife. Let your visitors bless your home wherever they visit you. Let them spread good news concerning your home. Let them find pleasure in visiting your home and bless your wife too.
Sarah Abraham’s wife was very good at this the Bible says “and Sarah prepared the meal very quickly…”
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Hear me sons, hospitality in a woman is seen right, when she is single even without a suitor. Don’t wait until you propose😂😂, she might be welcoming you nicely but not others. Because of her emotions.
Nowadays people meet at places where this character is so difficult to notice. But yet to the wise, it can be noticed easily.
👉🏻I visited a place to see a friend. He had this young beautiful looking lady, they were courting, and he wanted me to see both of them so the lady came, and what this young lady did amazed me, it was not at the house, it was outside the church, there were some benches there, so as I arrived, ( you know at that time I wasn’t looking good👴🏿, not like I do now😁, ) she had already bought a bottle of water for me. Then I was like “who is this for!?” then the friend replied “she bought a bottle of water for you, it’s yours” I didn’t show any signs of amazement, but that thing touched me, I will remember it forever, I saw a character in her that many ladies don’t have👈🏻.
Some ladies will just be looking at you until you ask for something like water is when they’ll be like, “let me get it for you”
You go to a ladies home and the one coming out to greet you is one old woman, (her mother), and the same mother is the one serving you with a drink, imagine. The big girls are just at the kitchen, you hear their voices and you only see them when you are about to leave, is when you see them coming to greet or you leave without even one coming to greet you. To me is quite boring.
The that is supposed to serve visitors at home is that lady, let her be at the front line serving. Because she is excercisi what her mother taught her.
Let the lady be a lady who knows how to serve.
Isaac’s wife Rebecca, had this.
When Abraham sent that gentleman to look for a wife for his son Isaac. The guy was later in confusion, yet at the right place, he arrived at the right place according to Abraham’s instructions, just like you are also at the right place ( the church👴🏿), but he didn’t know who exactly he must take.
And he sought for a sign, listen to this “no one can look for what he has no any clue about” so he sought for a sign that he sees in his master’s wife ( Abraham’s wife ) hospitality. ( Ukarimu).
And he prayed👇🏻👇🏻
Genesis 24:13-14
[13]Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water:
Tazama! Nimesimama karibu na kisima cha maji, na binti za watu wa mjini wanatoka kuteka maji,
[14]And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.
basi na iwe hivi; yule msichana nitakayemwambia, Tua mtungi wako, nakuomba, ninywe; naye akasema, Unywe, nami nitawanywesha na ngamia zako pia; basi huyu na awe ndiye uliyemchagulia mtumishi wako Isaka; na kwa hayo nitajua ya kuwa umemfadhili bwana wangu.
But why would he seek for this sign? Remember maybe he had never been in Abraham’s land, or maybe he is not really sure of the reason why Abraham didn’t like daughters from other lands. So he had to seek something relevant to what he was seeing in his master’s wife, maybe that will convince Abraham that the lady he brought was exactly from the same location he demanded and not otherwise.
A hopitable woman is a treasure.
Sons don’t only marry for romantic reasons, because your friends, business, Children and parents won’t be kept by your romantic life. Open your eyes.
A wife that hates visitors, will at someday run away from you when you are now disabled.
What is it that makes her feel unconfortable with visitors. Remember your mother will visit you someday, your brother will visit you someday. Will you chase them away because you are married?
There are girls who are separation factors, not the uniting factors. The moment you marry them they steal you away from your parents, you no longer send anything home, your parents are missing you because you have abandoned them.
- Marry a uniting factor.
The lady has to take you closer to your parents, she must be so much on the side of your parents. Don’t marry a girl that hates your parents, that one can betray you without looking back.
How do you know this?
Look at the way she speaks about her own parents, a girl that dishonors her own parents, will not honor yours,.
A lady that the moment you start relationship with or before relationship, she keeps on saying how bad her mother is, or how irresponsible her father is. That one is a poison, Even is the parent has some shortcomings let you notice it not her telling you even before.
Be very careful with these ladies who cry so much😂😂😂, one minute you find her crying, asking her, she says “my father this and this/ my mother has done this and this, they don’t love me..😭😭😭”. Brother don’t be a hero of the movie.😂😂
If she can’t spare her own parents, if she can’t honor her own parents before you, what makes you think that she will stand with your own parents/yourself in difficulties?.
Be wise, the voice of God is everywhere
Ladies and gentlemen know this,
If ever you are going to marry, know that your union is also uniting two families, you are taking her parents to be your parents. And she is also taking your parents to be her parents. Which is an advantage, instead of having two parents, you are now having four. It’s an increase.
So both of you must be very martured to know how to deal well with your parents.
- Beauty is also to be considered,
Now let me explain something, here.
Every healthy relationship is rooted spiritually not physically. The physical part comes at the least of all.
In this world we have beautiful women and handsome men because we don’t understand what beauty and handsomeness is.
Beauty is more inner than physical,. If you see a fair looking girl with strange/bad behavior, that girl is still as ugly as a demon.
What attracts you to a woman must never be her looks, remember even that granny you see there was had very beautiful looks at her age. Real beauty doesn’t die with age, it remains to be inherited.
Appart from the outer looks of a lady, please sons get to study if the looks you see reflects the inner beauty.
The woman you are to marry must first be attractive to you, not your father, not your mom not your relatives. Because it is you who is going to live with her not your dad or mom. And at this point even looks are considered, by you, not anyone else.
Another point which is supposed to the second from the last is
- Marry a mother of your children, a bride
Generations are trained to modify whatever they see, this is the reason at the first ages people were living in huts, but nowadays it has been modified into modern houses. Check the behaviors that lady is going to teach your children by looking at the way she manages herself, her dressing style, her speech, her total lifestyle. Because those behaviors are going to replicate to your children and your children are going to modify those characters, they’ll begin living from where your wife ended. If your wife was wearing shorts dresses, your child is going to begin from there upto the state of walking with tights.
You choose characters of your children by the kind of a woman you choose.
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