Season 02 ( part 14)

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THE BRIDGE (Episode 03)

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This is a point where decisions are made, critical decisions of life.

You are now at a point where you have to be very careful, not because you are a teenager who is irresponsible, but because you are responsible and you want to make that responsibility bear fruits. Now here you have to be very careful.

There is a way you are supposed to behave and position yourself especially at this level.

Remember “Marriage is only for the divorced”🤔

What did I say?🤔🤔, Yes, you heard it right. “Only those who are divorced are supposed to marry, unless you are divorced, you are not qualified for marriage”

It is difficult to start a ministry when you are still a member of another ministry.

MARRIAGE IS ONLY FOR THE DIVORCED

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Listen to this very carefully, there is a certain life that you have to divorce for you to qualify for marriage

There is a certain kind of life that you must first abandon, ( leave aside) for you to qualify for the ministry called marriage.

Am talking about mental freedom here.

The Bible says👇🏻👇🏻

Genesis 2:24
[24] “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother,” and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

“Kwa hiyo mwanamume atamwacha baba yake na mama yake” naye ataambatana na mkewe, nao watakuwa mwili mmoja.

Any man that wants to engage himself into a marriage, you must first divorce your parents and relatives,

And to go further, you must divorce certain lifestyle that you used to enjoy before.

And this is to be done even before knowing your partner, let your partner find you already divorced

Before dating, divorce certain systems first

And a woman also must divorce her former lifestyle before, meeting the one who is going to marry her.

We call it suicidal mission😂, But with blessings😂

Lady, you must abandon your people, some of your friends. Some lifestyle that you used to enjoy before put it away. The same as man, abandon your parents first, learn to leave them.

Why am I saying this,

A man is the protector of his wife and children. Before you could protect anyone, you were once protected by your father, taught under your mother.

And now you have come to a level where you no longer need protection, but you need to protect someone.

For you to be able to protect well, you must abandon the old protection, because sometimes you will need to protect your wife even from your own parents.

To avoid interference, and in order to let your wife enjoy full protection from you, you must first abandon the old covering.

What shows that you are now martured up to a level where you can hold the hand of someone’s daughter is the level of freedom you have from the past life.

There is a moment you will have to make critical decisions and solve some critical matters in your marriage. If you are still attached to your past, your past will be deciding for you.

There are people who are married yet their marriage is still controlled by their parents, they move according to what their mother/father is saying. And such marriages are so bitter. You find one side, let’s say the wife is having a very difficult time to win over her husband. Because the husband is still “married” to his parents.

When it comes to decision making, you must have mastery over that. Knowing that whatever you decide concerning your life God honors, and God supports you.

God sees marriage in a very unique way to an extent that whatever you decide is respected even in heaven. In the name of the covenant you have engaged in. Even if it is a very reckless decision in the sight of others. I’m telling, not even an angel in heaven is allowed to come in between. So not even your own child is allowed to come in between what you have decided to do.

People that are not fully separated from their past and their relatives are those that even a slight mistake, already they are calling their mother in the village on the phone. They plan to do a certain project, before the husband could even tell his wife, his mother is the first person to contribute an idea.

Even if you are fifty years old, you are still a Mama’s boy, 😂😂, you better return home stay with your parents until you are fully become responsible.

Why then do you call her your wife, if you can’t trust her with your ideas?

The husband feels so comfortable exposing his ideas to his friends, rather than his wife. The entire plan is handed to his friends, the wife knows nothing,.

If you come to me like that I will just chase you away, how can you expect me to trust you, if you can’t even trust your own wife? The one that cooks for you, the one that you share the same bed with, you don’t trust and you expect a friend to trust you. What have you done so far to deserve trust from people, if you are so dull like that? Your wife has never enjoyed trust from you, you don’t even know what trust is? Yet you want to be trusted with your idea.

This is the reason, some families are struggling so much financially, they think it is a witch, but the truth is that they are never in an agreement

And God can never be in a place where there is division.

Their Prayers are blocked because they are not in agreement,

As the Bible says👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻

1 Peter 3:7-9
[7]Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Kadhalika ninyi waume, kaeni na wake zenu kwa akili; na kumpa mke heshima, kama chombo kisicho na nguvu; na kama warithi pamoja wa neema ya uzima, kusudi kuomba kwenu kusizuiliwe.

[8]Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:

Neno la mwisho ni hili; mwe na nia moja, wenye kuhurumiana, wenye kupendana kama ndugu, wasikitikivu, wanyenyekevu;

[9]Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

watu wasiolipa baya kwa baya, au laumu kwa laumu; bali wenye kubariki; kwa sababu hayo ndiyo mliyoitiwa ili mrithi baraka.

No matter how much good you will do, give Offerings, tithe as much as you can, if your wife/ your husband is not as peace with you because of the way you treat her/him, your offering is rejected.

This is the reason some families are struggling financially, they work hard but nothing is happening, they pray yet nothing is happening, because they are not of one mind

Their marriage is still in the hands of others.

A slight thing, the woman is already on the phone calling her mother, “mother I’m this and this, that went like that and this and this I’m tired…😭😭😭” You married a baby.😂😂

By the way, you call yourselves babies, I doesn’t surprise me seeing you with this kind of behaviors.😂😂😂

Be ready to protect your marriage even from your own relatives.

Women don’t let your relatives speak I’ll about your husband, hide your husband from them.

Learn to cover him, from your past and your relatives. And this is the meaning of “covering your head” as a woman.

We are still at the bridge, right?🤔

A marriage where you find relatives still interfering, they have a voice, “our son… our daughter”. Is not a healthy marriage, it can break any time, because you have welcome strangers to decide for you. Once you are married, everybody else including your parents become strangers.

Now when I say leaving them I don’t mean not caring about them or ministering to them. No, I mean being free from them mentally. Being able to run your life even in their absence that one qualifies you for marriage.

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