COURTSHIP REDEFINED ( How to maintain a healthy relationship)
Okay let’s get into this wonderful part and I’m going to be moving quicker and detailed.
There are things that we thought keeps a relationship for long, but only coming to realize that as much as we practiced that, is the more we lost our way. The following are what you need to understand about a healthy relationship especially during courtship
- Keeping boundaries I’d rather call it social distancing😂😂. Where you leave a gap between the two of you, this helps you as a child of God to have enough time to stay and to build yourself in the Lord and in some of your carriers/ duties. Relationship is not a prison where you are so attached to an extent that you can’t focus on other things no. While you are with that God given fellow, make sure that you have enough time to focus on other things. It’s is better to be busy when searching😂😂😂, because at that time you are still asking God a lot of useless questions😂😂, but now that you have found him/her, relax, now you can do your things at ease because one of the toughest questions in your life has already been answered, when there are millions of young people out there still asking the question, you have it’s answer already, so focus on other things. It is not wise to always be together in every location, as a child of God it turns to something else. It might be seen as a fornication. And also lack of self discipline can get you into a temptation. Then you might find yourselves doing something that turns your courtship into destruction. It is advisable to at least set special days in a month or after two weeks that you meet. And discuss some important agenda concerning your courtship and marriage and family and also some social matters. Make sure the meeting place is public this shows honor to your partner, it means that you honor him/her to an extent that you don’t want to interfere with her dignity. It builds more friendship than foolish emotions.
- Self discipline this is like the first point though it goes a bit wider than the first one.
When you know that you are in a courtship, immediately there are some things that you must change. Remember characters that are expressed during courtship will then find their way through into the marriage.
There are some people that are so arrogant, that they can’t change some of their wicked behaviors yet in a courtship. They say “kwani ndo kashanioa, tukioana ndo naachana na tabia hii”. Remember that courtship is a marriage at it’s primary stage so mind the way you treat it.
Self discipline include the way you treat yourself, the way you treat your God, the way you treat your partner. The way you talk, the way you handle life in general.
Hear me, there are men that even when in courtship, they still have time to joke with other ladies talking to them in a flattery manner. You are putting your relationship at risk by welcoming devils.
And there are ladies also, wana wachumba lakini bado anaweza kusimamishwa na kijana yeyote mtaani, still ana muda wa kutoa kumsikiliza kijana ambaye anaingilia uchumba alio nao.
Hii ni hatari, ina maana hujui kulinda nafasi ya mwenzi wako.
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